Hey, guys. I've lived in San Francisco since I was in my early 20's back before HIV when there were a lot of fun party times. I've seen a lot of changes over the years as HIV impacted our community. I think we can be as strong a queer community now as we have ever been before.

So I'm single and dating, and I like to use speed now and again to enhance the sex I have with guys I meet on Craigslist or Gay.com. Whether we're together for 30 seconds or 30 years, I want my experiences with other guys to be as good for them as they are for me. I'm on a spiritual path and I want the connections I make with guys to feel as sacred as possible. I know the more I get to know about a person online, sexually and non-sexually, and the more they know me, the more likely we are going to have a good and safe time. So first, I don't get high until the negotiation on line is done and we are together. I know if I were to use before hooking up, I would find myself in situations where I would be less careful. Also my profile is pretty clear about who I am and what I am into. I like to communicate what works for me and hear what the other guy wants too and negotiate to find a way to get that for both of us. Sure, sometimes it doesn't work out. I get rejected, just like everybody else. The Internet is like the theatre and you are on a casting call. There's going to be a lot of rejection. But I don't let that get me down. Rejection is not about me, it's says more about the other guy and what they are into. So I am happy to move on to other guys who are actually into the same things I am. I'd like the internet to be a nicer place for all of us, so I try to be kind to all who write to me and tell people that it's not what I am looking for and wish them good luck.

Does this work perfectly? No. Some hot guy can come along and all my plans can go out the window, but I do the best I can. So I am not afraid to be up front and find out more about the guys I hook with, because I know ultimately that's the best way to keep us happy and safe. I've had a lot of positive connections with guys this way and want to for a long time to come. Thanks for reading. Take Care.